I live my life wondering when someone I like is going to say something hateful and horrible about fat people and I will never be able to see that person the same way again. It's happened numerous times with people whom I still allow myself to like but I know they wouldn't offer me the same kindness. Why? Because I can't stand to live a life where I hate everyone for their ignorance. I'd have no-one left that I could like.
Recently, a fellow blogger and writer that I admire went off on a fatphobic tangent. This person uses a different name on Twitter than they do on their blog, so I didn't recognize that they were one and the same until I went to share their work on Twitter recently and said to myself, wait a minute, you're that asshole that I unfollowed last month because of your shit assertions that fat people shouldn't be allowed to accept themselves as they are and should keep trying to hate themselves thin, consequences be damned.
This person would probably tell me that if I'd just lose weight then people making digs at fat people wouldn't upset me so much. This is akin to saying "if you just didn't seem so gay, people wouldn't pick on you." Also, fuck that shit. Even if I lost weight, making digs at fat people is still not okay.
This person is an excellent writer--much better than me if I'm to be honest. But no matter how good you are at your craft, if your heart is full of venom for people whose bodies you don't find attractive, then it's a hearty fuck you from me to you. Regardless of how good your work is, I will no longer support or promote you.
And that is all I have to say about that.
Fat, ornery, and perpetually disappointed
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Hangry says Happy holidays. Even if you're fat. Hell, especially if you're fat.
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Prejudice, is prejudice, is prejudice. I try hard not to let it creep into my own attitudes and cut very little slack to people who don't at least wrestle with theirs.
ReplyDeletePeople who crow about how they'd never say anything racist, homophobic, or transphobic often double down on saying really shitty things about fat people. It's clear that they want a scapegoat but all the other ones are taken, so they're going to have a go at one of the remaining socially acceptable targets. The other target tends to be poor people.
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